Most parents want everything to be perfect before expanding their family. New parents want their family to be prepared for the baby’s arrival in every way possible, including a decorated nursery, washed and folded baby clothes, and all of the baby equipment set up.
One grandma-to-be was anxiously awaiting the arrival of her first grandson. However, when her pregnant daughter and son-in-law told Grandma that she needed to set up a nursery in her home to be fully prepared for the baby’s arrival, she was confused.
On a Reddit thread called “Who’s The A**hole?,” a grandma shared that her in-laws asked her to empty one of the rooms in HER own home (which is currently being used by her sons) to make space for their new baby.
“[Tom] said that he expected me to, I asked why, he looked at me and said that every decent grandmother prepares a nursery at her home specifically to welcome her grandson as a new member of the extended family,” she wrote.
Tom’s mother had her own nursery set up, so he expected his wife’s mother to do the same. But without the money or space, she always said no. That made them pretty unhappy.
“Avery took it as in I don’t care about her baby and don’t want to do anything for him but that is just not true,” the grandmother continued. “The conversation turned into an argument and they left minutes later.”
Tom offered to pay for everything and said the grandmother only had to empty one of her rooms, but she refused. She would have to move her two sons in together if she did that, and it wasn’t reasonable in her opinion.
Many people who read her story could relate.
“They want your children who live there all of the time to be forced to share a room so that your grandchild, who will occasionally visit, can have its own nursery in your home?” one person said.
“They have lost their minds. What a completely inappropriate thing to ask of your parents. It’s totally normal for a grandparent to keep some toys and possibly a pop-up crib in their home for occasional visits. This is not normal or acceptable behavior.”
“As a new parent, I don’t get it,” another person added. “When my baby was new, we brought everything we needed over. Eventually, the Grandparents started storing and buying things. I brought over a tin of formula and some bibs and dishes, and they each picked up some toys and books. My MIL bought a pack and play, my Mom is storing mine that we don’t really use.”
In this scenario, do you think the grandmother is the jerk, or are Avery and Tom?
