Although everyone allocates a different amount of money for wedding planning, it is pivotal that you and your fiancé are on the same page about spending. After all, no one wants to argue about money before they’re even married!
The moment she got engaged, one woman knew exactly what style of wedding dress she wanted. Though it was pricey, she didn’t hesitate to spend the money. However, disagreements arose between the two when it came to money, as her fiancé didn’t want her to spend so much on a dress.
In a post on “Am I the A**hole?” on Reddit, the woman recounted her story and how her fiancé “suggested I rent a dress instead of buying one. He started saying that I’m being irresponsible with money.”
She decided to spend her own money on the dress she wanted, and it soon went missing from her closet.
“I freaked out but he told me he returned it and got the money back,” the woman wrote. “I was shocked I asked him why he did that and he said he thought the dress was ridiculously expensive and that was wasting money and AGAIN suggested I go rent one.”
That didn’t go well. “I blew up and went off on him which I’ve never done before,” she stated. “He literally took few steps back and told me to calm down. I said he had no right, I’m the one paying for the damn dress.”
His argument was that, in a marriage, people have to come to joint decisions about money matters. “He kept on about how I must expect to him to pay for everything while I keep ‘my money’ or spend it irresponsibly (but I never tell him how to spend his money)—I responded that he gets zero say in how I spend my money whatsoever,” she stated.
This resulted in another argument, and he even got his mother involved. She also suggested that she buy a cheaper dress.
Now, the woman is confused about whether she or he is being a jerk in this situation.
According to Reddit users, the man in this situation is definitely behaving like a jerk.
“He literally stole from you and then called his mom to tell you he was right? Time to cancel the wedding!” one person wrote.
“If you are spending your own money and it is not going to wipe you out financially, I would seriously reconsider marriage to a person like this. It will NEVER change. Don’t settle please,” another person said.
“I don’t care if the dress cost 10 billion dollars, you do not return a bride’s WEDDING DRESS without discussing it with her first,” another agreed. “And last I checked, your mother-in-law isn’t your accountant and should have 0 say over how you spend your money. If your fiance wants to discuss budget issues as a couple, that’s great! That’s the fine and responsible thing to do. Him throwing a temper tantrum and then crying to mom is not that.”
What’s your opinion? Who is the one in the wrong here?