That is a reality. Not everyone has a positive relationship with their mother-in-law (MIL), and those who do are extremely fortunate. The will always be that one MIL who offers her thoughts on everything. The one who questions your decisions, particularly when it comes to your family. The one who raises an eyebrow at you giving your kids junk food or sweets.

However, this mother-in-law pierced the ears of her newborn granddaughters!

What would you do if you were in that scenario? What would you do if your mother-in-law got your daughter’s ears pierced behind your back, despite having already informed her not to do so numerous times? How would you react?

One mother had a similar experience, and it did not make her happy. She was furious, hence she went to the “Am I The A**hole?” subreddit to express her opinions about the situation.

She went on to say that she understands that her and her spouse come from very different cultural backgrounds. It’s possible that this is why her relationship with her in-laws isn’t always pleasant. She has no problem with them showering her daughter with love and care, but there are a few things she refuses to tolerate.

The controversy surrounding piercing young girls’ ears is one of the most common disputes between them.

The mom wrote:

“It’s a big deal in my husband’s culture that the baby girls get their ears pierced pretty much at birth. I wasn’t comfortable with it. I know they won’t remember it and wasn’t so much the pain aspect, but more so I wanted her to be able to decide. Yes, the holes close up, but I’d rather her get to decide when or if she pierces them when she’s older.”

She and her spouse made certain that her mother-in-law understood their decision on the subject, but her nightmare did not end…

She continued:

“Last weekend, we went out to run a few errands kid-free. [My] mother-in-law kept them out a bit later and when she returned….my daughter had pierced ears. She said she had my sister-in-law (husband’s sister) do them. She’s done them for all the babies in the family and it was tradition.”

And, as you are aware, this clearly did not go over well…

She added:

“I was pissed. I felt so violated, took my kids and told her to leave. My husband was equally as pissed and they argued outside, in their native language, for quite a bit, before mother-in-law left.”

Since the ordeal, the mother has taken off her earrings from her daughter. She simply wanted her daughter to be able to make that huge selection for herself at a later date. And she was counting on everyone around her to accept it.

Many people agreed with and supported the conclusion that the mother is correct here, and that the mother-in-law had no right to sneak around behind her back and make decisions for her. Others explained how vital it is to be polite when it comes to cultural traditions.

What are your feelings about what this mother-in-law did?